The death of a significant other can be emotionally devastating. So, too, can a marriage torn apart by divorce. The emotional trauma of each, whether sudden or built up over time, can be exacerbated by confusion about “practical” matters that are integral to the transition process. Both situations require a period of adjustment so that a new normal can be found.
Here are a few suggestions for making the transition process as stress-free as possible.
Seek others’ counsel and advice.
Let’s be honest: this is not the situation in which to “go it alone.” A loved one’s passing or the separation from your life partner requires the help of those around you. For example, there are many support groups to guide you as you adjust to the aftershocks of death and divorce; these groups may be private, affiliated with your religious community, or as informal as your neighbors. Methods of adapting to a new life alone, as well as much-needed empathy, are important takeaways from these meetings and can be incredibly helpful in the transition process.
Avoid making hasty decisions.
Many people become so unmoored from the trauma of a death or divorce that they feel compelled to make significant life changes as a result. These decisions, as important as they can be on the surface, are often finalized before appropriate consideration has been made. Selling the house, moving to another state, changing careers, and other major decisions should be delayed until enough time has passed that the “new normal” has become a reality.
Take care of yourself.
The emotional impact and major life changes brought on by death or divorce can make it tough to get through each day. People dealing with these situations must not forget the simple, routine acts of caring for oneself: getting enough sleep, eating a balanced diet, and exercising regularly. Strength and stamina are needed to overcome these difficult times, and paying attention to health and wellness are critical for a smooth transition.
You can also find support and information on the internet.  Here are two resources that can give you some guidance.
Tap into resources.
Many people experiencing the transition process are unable to navigate the voluminous administrative details that are associated with their new situation. Insurance applications, banking forms, and complicated legal documents can be overwhelming especially in the midst of an emotionally trying time. To eliminate the possibility of overlooking “minor details” or making unknown mistakes, one should consider tapping the expertise of a daily money manager.  We are here to help you with this difficult transition.  Contact us at
(516) 528-0206 or email